On Judgmentalism and Hypocrisy

“Look to your own faults, / What you have done or left undone. / Overlook the faults of others.”

–Buddha, The Dhammapada, Section 4, Thomas Byrom translation

“How easy it is to see your brother’s faults, / How hard to face your own. / You winnow his in the wind like chaff, / But yours you hide, / Like a cheat covering up an unlucky throw. / Dwelling on your brother’s faults / Multiplies your own. / You are far from the end of your journey. / The way is not in the sky. / The way is in the heart.”

–Buddha, The Dhammapada, Section 18, Thomas Byrom translation

“Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you, for you know in your heart that many times you yourself have cursed others.”

 –Bible, Ecclesiastes 7:21-22

“How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

–Jesus, Matthew 7:4-5

“One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others.”

–Moliere, various sources

“Gentleness, self-sacrifice, and generosity are the exclusive possession of no one race or religion.”

–Mahatma Gandhi, various sources

“We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

–Anaïs Nin, Seduction of the Minotaur

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